Today I met with the Director of Community & Special Services at a local college in Orange County.  I wasn’t sure about what was going to transpire, so I went in with little expectation of the outcome.

Five months ago I submitted a proposal to teach 2 course in their Holistic Health Program.  You see, I love speaking – as much as I love Coaching. I love teaching and training. I am good at it. I am quite comfortable on a stage. I’ve presented a few workshops in the past few months, but with very few attendants.  My ideal is to speak to a minimum of 500 people at a time – this is one of my top 5 Passions. I thought presenting a few workshops and courses at the college would be a good platform for me and would provide value to the students. When I hadn’t heard in several months I just went in search of other ways to get in front of people.

I received a call last Thursday from the director of the program.  She was interested in talking to me about my proposal. I knew this meant there was a possibility my proposal was being considered but that was all.  I continued my practice of ‘No Tension’ and had a wonderful weekend. 

I was met by a delightful woman who I immediately liked and fell immediately into rapport with.  She introduced me to the Sr. Community Services Assistant directly in charge of the Massage School.  Another delightful woman – warm and passionate about the program.  An hour and 1/2 later I was signing forms and the schedule was set for both of my classes to be included in the Spring Curriculum.  Additionally, we talked about other courses I could offer – but would need to look at the Summer to start those.

Wow!  That was Easy!

I don’t know how many students will enroll in these courses, but I know it will be more than I have presented to in a long time.  I, also have a presentation to approximately 35 persons scheduled for the second week in October.  I am confident that before long I will be presenting to at least 500 persons – providing valuable information they can apply to live their Passions and Create the Lives they Want.


We all have a story. Everyone has a story. Actually, most people have many stories. I have maybe 500 or more stories myself.
Unfortunately, so often our stories prevent us from realizing our potential.
When you experience some event you tend to categorize it as a good experience or a bad experience. The person next to you may have categorized the same event totally different from you. – Same event, different experience.
How is that possible?
When we experience an event via our senses (sight, sound, touch, taste, smell) we form an internal representation of that experience. But, our internal representation of that experience has already gone through a process of filters. Many of these filters are unconscious – out of our awareness. Though the types of filters we all use are basically the same, the content of the filters may differ.
For example: memory/past experience is one of the filters. I had a client who had a past experience of being booed at a grade school event when this client read a poem. Consequently this client would not speak at any events & shied away from anything that would require getting up in front of an audience. Now this person had an amazing singing voice, but would only sing to herself. Another client always had wonderful responses when getting up in front of a group. Loved to sing, but did not have as strong and beautiful a voice as the first client. The second client had a career as a performer & singer; while the first was very unhappy working as an accountant.
In the above example the first client would categorize getting up in front of people as a very bad experience, yet she had the talent and vocals to potentially be a huge singing star. The second client loved getting up in front of people and enjoyed a career doing this. Her experience surrounding getting up in front of people was categorized as good.
You can’t change your story; however, there are many methods out there that can help change the content of some of your filters to allow you to realize your potential.
You don’t have to let your story hold you back from living the life you want.
How great is that?

In 1854 Henry David Thoreau wrote in Walden:

 “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. From the desperate city you go into the desperate country, and have to console yourself with the bravery of minks and muskrats. A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind. There is no play in them, for this comes after work. But it is a characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things.”

Though this is often misquoted, the gist is still the same. 

Recent studies indicate that we haven’t moved much from this point.  The studies point out that 80% of Americans are not passionate about what they do.  They are not happy with the life they have. But most of them are ‘resigned’ to it.

Hello world!

September 19, 2009

The other day I found myself talking to a man who was searching for happiness and meaning in his life.  He enjoyed some level of success in his professional life, but was not even happy about that. Throughout our conversation he consistently referred to what someone else did that caused x in his life, and what outside event occurred that caused x in his life.
I asked him if he was satisfied with where he was and if there was anything he could think of that caused him to want to just jump out of bed in the morning, if there was anything that would cause him to shout “WoooHoooo!”?

He thought for a moment, looked me straight in the eye and said – “You know, I can’t think of anything that I’m genuinely happy with.” 

Sadly, this person is more the norm than the exception.

Most of us find it easy to assign accountability for our life outcomes to someone else. After all – I would never do anything that would cause me pain or unhappiness.  

One of the biggest steps in creating your life is accepting the responsibility for it. I can attest that when you do amazing things begin to happen.